I got the promotion. I got the raise. I got the apartment I dreamed about at 22. And every Sunday night I sit in it and feel nothing but dread. I think I've been building someone else's life this whole time. I'm 31 and I don't know what I actually want.
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wtf that comment "great"?? man... look, OP, you got what you were dreaming of, and now there's nothing left - make your new dreams! just think now - what will be your next dream and start pursuing it. if it's too hard and you can't think of anything yet, then listen... One practical advice: make a challenge to help one person every day. it doesn't have to be something big, it can be giving water to someone dieing from heat, it can be some professional advice to the younger colleague, anything small but intentional. believe me, in 3 weeks your life with change completely! it can be your family member, your friend, your enemy too, your neighbour or a stranger! good luck
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